Turning Eighteen

My son Rahul, the subject of this blog, is quirky and innocent. His life has been hard in many ways, primarily because he is not neurotypical. He has an autism diagnosis, an anxiety diagnosis, maybe even an ADHD diagnosis.


He has a phenomenal memory for specific things like birth dates or what happened on June 10th 2003. He can spend hours poring over sunrise and sunset times in various places. The changing patterns of the sun's journey through the sky and the gradual emergence of darkness or light never fail to thrill him. He absolutely loves people. Sometimes, because of his anxiety and nervousness, he says things that sound inappropriate or mean. But at heart he really is a very sweet person.


Rahul is on the brink of adulthood. Soon he will graduate from high school. We are looking forward to the future (more unknown for him than for most) with trepidation and hope.

Friday, November 3, 2017

Independence/House work Update

Here is how Rahul is doing with all the independence and work goals:

- He has regressed a bit as far as waking up in the morning goes. He has been faithfully turning off four alarms every morning and then continuing to lie in bed until an angry mom marches in. (The good thing - compared to a few months ago - is that he responds relatively fast and gets up at that point instead of whining and dawdling for half an hour.) So I started giving him the consequence of not reading at night - we are in the middle of Mission Mumbai in which a New York boy named Dylan joins his friend Rohit's family on their visit to India. As a result Rahul woke up by himself the last couple of days. Let's see how it goes.

- He has been making his own school lunch the last few days (toast bread, heat black bean burger in microwave and put it on bread, put ketchup on it, wrap it up, wash and pack a fruit). This makes him barely-on-time for school because he is very slow. He also needs direction, otherwise he would do everything sequentially and take a lot more time... put the bread in the toaster and sit, when it is done then take out the toast, only then get the black bean burger out and put it in the microwave, sit and wait some more and so on.

- He is changing his bed sheets and doing laundry (with some direction) not every week as planned but more like every other week.

- His bathroom cleaning is not happening as regularly as it should, he does it from time to time

- He empties the dishwasher and puts away the dishes every other day.

- He helps to take out the garbage every week.

- Every few weeks he sweeps the kitchen and mops it. (He now leaves less water on the floor after mopping.)

- He listens to directions more willingly and with less fuss.

- Things he does occasionally - cut vegetables, bag lawn waste

- He is taking more responsibility for history, now he knows what he needs to do, where he is in his list of work and he checks off things he has done. The way the class is structured also allows him to do many things by himself.

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