Turning Eighteen
My son Rahul, the subject of this blog, is quirky and innocent. His life has been hard in many ways, primarily because he is not neurotypical. He has an autism diagnosis, an anxiety diagnosis, maybe even an ADHD diagnosis.
He has a phenomenal memory for specific things like birth dates or what happened on June 10th 2003. He can spend hours poring over sunrise and sunset times in various places. The changing patterns of the sun's journey through the sky and the gradual emergence of darkness or light never fail to thrill him. He absolutely loves people. Sometimes, because of his anxiety and nervousness, he says things that sound inappropriate or mean. But at heart he really is a very sweet person.
Rahul is on the brink of adulthood. Soon he will graduate from high school. We are looking forward to the future (more unknown for him than for most) with trepidation and hope.
Monday, October 30, 2017
Missing the forest for the trees
Rahul gave a startling demonstration of that the other day when we asked him to snip off dry flowers from a potted garden mum plant. Partha wanted to see if he could remove the dried blooms while leaving the closely interspersed buds intact. He did the job perfectly on the plant that was on the left side of the porch. But when I asked him to repeat the task with the other plant, it took him several minutes and multiple hints to find the plant although it was an identical one placed on the other side of the porch. You know how small our front porch is, each plant could not have been more than 2-3 feet away from Rahul.
This actually is not uncommon for Rahul at all. He finds it harder than most people to find a book on a shelf or a particular word on a page. Now that it is his job to keep track of his history work (with lots of help), I'm noticing that he does not have a sense of where he is in the chapter or unit. If he stops mid-section, it's hard for him to relocate it when he comes back. Most people simultaneously focus on a point and scan around it while searching or reading, most of us continually scan our surroundings while doing a task or simply sitting around. We do this in physical and mental spaces. Rahul tends not to do these things. He will have to be taught.
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